I was brought up so conservatively that I never even entertained the notion of kinky sex in my mind, to myself, while being alone with only my own company. It seemed to have been suppressed at an early stage purely by my upbringing.
I was in my early thirties already when sheer circumstances and the fact that I was an adult and felt free to ask some questions, that I realised that it’s not some dark creepy stuff practised only by weirdos but that it was completely normal and that just about everyone had a fetish or preference of some sort besides vanilla sex.
Some things may be regarded as not far off the beaten path and for some it might be more niche, but if you take a moment to be honest with yourself and explore a little with an open mind, one without judgement, you are inclined to find yours.
It turned out that rope-work was a bigger one for me and I have sadly not yet had the opportunity to pursue it. It really doesn’t help being an introvert either.
At least I did save 56% with a Kink discount and can explore it more that way.